RESILIENCE CHECKLIST:: 16 Principles.

Resilience Checklist 16 Principles.,

Copyright, © Paschal Baute, 2015

Note: The relevance of each of these cannot be unpacked in this summary lists. References to other writings where this is explained and explored are footnoted.

1 Recognize all perception is selective. We do not see the world as it is but as we are, through the lenses of our life history and values. We can "setback," become more aware and see something from a new perspective. Our vision is always limited. We create the world we live in by what we focus upon. Becoming aware or mindful is the critical key. (1)

2. Become aware of how easily we are contoured an captured by the voices inside our heads.. Develop some mindfulness or meditation practice. Learn to listen to and sort your feelings. (2)

3. Knowing that you create your own world by what you focus upon, find and pursue your own dreams. Accept that your own journey is unique, unlike anyone else. Know that it is okay to be different.

4. In whatever you do, stretch yourself, do your best. Push your limits. Try to exceed your expectations and that of others. Remain curious.

5. Persist. Expect challenges and setbacks. We learn by our missteps and mistakes, by our failures and flaws. Know that failure is part of the game of life. Develop an internal GPS that can "recalculate."

6. Never ask the question "why me?" each of us is dealt in life a different hand of cards. What counts is what we do with the cards we receive., how we play them. Complain about what happens keeps one stuck. Never sit on "pity porch." .(3)

7. Do not take responsibility for others, for their feelings or success. Make sure you are not a "Rescuer." see Paschal's Rescuer's checklist. (4)

8. Forgiveness is always part of the journey. Refuse to give free rent inside your head to hurts received. Recognize that forgiveness of self is our greatest challenge. Check Paschal's 16 Tips for forgiveness.(5)

9. Accept oneself as a flawed, imperfect persons who is bound to make mistakes, even hurt others. Be open to feedback about yourself. (6)

10. Be generous with your time and talent. Look for opportunities to make a different n someone's life, some project that moves your heart.

11. Find a passion, a vision, a dream and then pursue it boldly, spending oneself.

12. Be thankful to all those who have given you a "hand up." Each of can access a circle of mentors and wisdom teachers"

13 Find and nourish a supportive social network, who will support and encourage you.

14. Discover a wisdom tradition that can nourish and sustain your dreams (7).

15. Be grateful of many blessings, underserved and unrecognized. Live with a grateful heart.

16. Keep on loving in your own unique way, no matter what. Accept every day as an undeserved  gift which, in reality, it is. Do not take anything for granted. .

NOTES

1.       See Chapter One. "the Rope is Not Tied to Me," and Appendix One: Six Blind Men and an elephant," in Resilience of a Dream Catcher (2014), Paschal Baute.

2.      See Appendix Four, "Who Am I?" in same Resilience book.

3.       See Appendix Three :"Letter to a Loved One Coping With an Incompressible Loss," in same Resilience book.

4.       See Appendix Ten, "Are You a Helper or a Rescuer?" ion same Resilience book.

5.       See Appendix Five "Forgiveness: When, How, 16 Steps, in same Resilience book.

6.       See two books Me and My Shadow Self (kindle, 2014), Baute, and Laughing at My Perfectionism, CreateSpace, Amazon (2014), Baute

7.       See Appendix Three "A psychologically Healthy Spirituality," in same Resilience book; alas explore Celtic Grace: Think Places, and both volumes of Where Do I Find "God" Stories? (2014, 2015) Baute.

Dr. Paschal Baute is a semi-retired pastoral psychologist, disabled blind Veteran and stage four cancer survivor of 23 years. With a VA diagnosis of "Catastrophically Disabled," he serves as chaplain to his local Blind Veterans Group. Trained by the Hines VA Blind Rehab Center in computers, he aims to prove the training is worthwhile an productive. Since training in 2012, he has published 14 books on kindle and eleven in print t on Amazon.

Now in his ninth decade at age 86,, his mission is to create a bookshelf for counselors and caregivers in wellness, resilience and spirituality. His website is www.paschalbauite.com. He can be reached by email at paschalthestgoryteller@gmail.com.

Resilience is unpacked in 29 lessons from a crazy quilt life, coping with much loss and abuse, Resilience of a Dream Catcher (2014), Baute, both kindle and print.